Immersing Yourself in the Act of Forgiveness

It has not since long ago been brought to the awareness of most that forgiveness is for the forgiver not just the forgiven. This is most true. Forgiving a person who has wronged you may free you more than it may free them. And in order to forgive, you need to heal. Forgiveness is the result of healing (the healing process), and choosing forgiveness as you heal.

In truth, forgiving them may actually be solely for you as they might have to forgive themselves too, and if they do not, they may be stuck there but certainly not with you as you would have rid yourself of the baggage by forgiving them.

Forgiveness is also not just for the drastic wrongs done to you. It is for the small wrongs done to you. Like a stranger bumping into your shoulder while walking. Forgiveness is a spirit that should ever dwell in you, especially for the little things in life done by people or loved ones that may annoy you but not necessarily bruise you.

When a friend says something rude jokingly, or you are offended by your sibling. If forgiveness is ever present in you, you are able to instantly forgive those minor wrongs freeing yourself from resentment, anger, bitterness, or perhaps even feeling like a victim.

Especially with minor incidents, people do not always have to come to you first to say how much they’re sorry. If forgiveness is ever in you, those minor wrongs and offenses will be found by forgiveness if they happen, and you will thus be self-protected whether they say sorry or not.

Thus, in realizing forgiveness for its true purpose, it is wise to not have to hear the word ‘sorry’ in order to forgive. When forgiveness is ever present inside you, this is a goodness for yourself too as you will be ever forgiving yourself and therefore harnessing self-compassion and self-love.

Self-Forgiveness Is Impactful

Self-forgiveness is not a popular notion at all but we ourselves perhaps need the most forgiveness. Even if it is solely the other person who is wrong, it is wise and self-love and self-care to forgive yourself too, in simple terms, for finding yourself in a position where you are able to be hurt regardless of it not being your fault at all. Especially since we still tend to blame ourselves and feel shame even knowing it was out of our control since we are not all-knowing like God.

It may not be required as it is not your fault, but it is wise and a healthy relationship with yourself to practice self-forgiveness. Remembering that your relationship with yourself is the most important and other relationships actually stem from your own relationship with yourself.

The quality of the relationship with yourself stems from your relationship and intimacy with God Almighty because only your Creator has your true identity, so only in Him can you know and have a relationship with yourself.

Forgiveness is a virtue that is ever good because it is a principle of the good God, and you do not need to first be or feel like a victim to practice it.

See forgiveness as an emotional and mental health practice, for it is your emotional and mental health that suffers un-forgiveness. Practice breathing exercises and mindfulness to instill internal stillness that will make you not reactive but proactive.

Imagine for yourself a life where no one can offend you, where you are free from people’s opinions or judgements simply because whatever they may say or do that is offensive is welcomed by forgiveness.

That sounds like a superpower, like a beautiful reality. It sounds like a shield from negativity at any given moment. And it certainly sounds like a thing to be envied.

So, protect and shield your mental and emotional health with the spirit of forgiveness ever inside you. Let not your wellness be at the mercy of others. At the mercy of how they themselves are feeling or hurting. This is self-love, self-care, and self-control.

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