All You Need to Know About Being on Your Self-Discovery Journey

The journey of self-discovery is a journey that is translated into the way families, communities, and humanity as we know operate. The success or lack of success in a relationship is determined by the individual selves involved. What is inside will always manifest outside. Your words, emotions, and actions align with the self you are inside at any given moment.

The self-discovery journey is crucial because these are the selves that make up families, communities, humanity, and the world. The starting point of your relationships is yourself.

Whatever your relationship is with yourself, how you love and feel about yourself will be how you love or feel in your relationships with others, whether those relationships are platonic or not.

So, it is important to have your true self discovered so that everything else that’s not truly you can be tuned out for the betterment of true connection and intimacy in relationships (with others and yourself). The self-discovery journey is inevitably for the love of others especially.

It is imperative to understand that in order to love your lover and offspring and loved ones in deep and blissful ways, you must first possess those feelings within yourself, that is, you must feel those blissful feelings towards yourself. Having these good internal realities within you is having the Source of them all, God Almighty, living in you. There is no goodness outside of Him. 

This is the only way you’ll love in truth and freedom because you will have the Source of that love within you, as opposed to not having the Source and depending on insecure outward forces that create inner insecurity as well.

The self-discovery journey comprises acceptance, introspection, healing, and establishing a new sense of self in your body. After the healing and a renewed sense of self that must be actively established, the self-discovery journey will blissfully operate on autopilot throughout your life as you’ll have more and more experiences (moments) and emotions.

How to Discover Yourself

Surrendering to the fact that you have pain and flaws and all (from the pain) loosens you from the power the pain has.

The power that the pain has over you exists because you are running away from it and deny it any sensation of being felt, so it becomes a tormentor and the longer it stays (is unfelt) the more it grows (establishes), especially growing into worse than it originally was, possibly.

So, feel your feelings because they are only information like data that updates you on current affairs mentally and emotionally.

Once you have accepted the realities of inner pain, you are beginning your healing process. This is the pinnacle of the self-discovery journey.

The actual reason for a self-discovery journey is so you can heal from all your pain and trauma, in order that you are able to leave the past behind and be in the present with a bright future.

A bright future simply being a future without past pains, traumas, and fears. A bright future that means freedom from the past.

Achieving your goals and dreams with open wounds and sore bruises emotionally and mentally will bring your goals and dreams down to the level of the pain. Your dreams will be realized in a reality of pain and hurt, and you don’t want to get to where you’re going only to find out that nothing has changed.

In the same way that your flesh can heal without your effort, is how God, who made the body, is the first and final Healer. And in the same way that you must tend and clean your wound, you must be an intentional secondary participant in your healing journey. Partnering with the Almighty, and whatever is in your power and ability to do, doing that part as your portion. For example, processing (feeling) the unprocessed emotions.

Your possessions are not your healer. In truth, from the time you’ll be feeling your unpacked (buried) emotions, you’ll have started your healing process. Knowing pain is pain and what caused it is the beginning of healing.

The introspection stage is the second stage where you will be looking within yourself. Once you are aware of what is going on inside you, you will have realized all the pain in all its shapes and sizes. Pains from your childhood that have transformed into pains in your present.

Seeing in real time how you feel and why it feels like that, how you think and what those trains of thought are, how you carry yourself in the world —which will be in relation to how you see yourself and how you see the world, looking back into your childhood to determine where these things stem from, and how you think you want your future to look like.

Journal all these findings on paper. Find out the inner self-beliefs that have deep emotions attached to them thus making the beliefs rooted in you. Detach those beliefs by processing their emotions. Discover those deep emotions by simply asking, why do I believe this? What moment in my childhood may have convinced me of this, and what was I feeling in that moment?

Sit with those emotions by feeling them without shame or any resistance for a good while, even (especially) when it hurts, reminding yourself that it’s better they come out than stay in.

After processing the negative (unhealthy) self-beliefs by processing the emotions that made those beliefs stick, let go of those emotions and simultaneously be detached from the outdated beliefs that were rooted in pain, insecurity, and negativity. The detachment is automatic through truly understanding your pain(s) and past. A wise man once said, suffering stops being suffering once you know why you suffered.

Realize that these beliefs and emotions that made a home in you created your way of thinking (trains of thought).

Be aware that the roots that made you think negatively about yourself are uprooted, and therefore placing yourself in disagreement with any (outdated) thought that was inspired by those expired beliefs and emotions. Even if the thoughts persist, persist more in staying in disagreement with them. They will be habitual, so it’ll take a new habit for them to leave, and your disagreement will be that new habit.

A New State of Self

It is important to not just let go of the outdated, negative beliefs and emotions, but to also replace them with new positive beliefs and emotions, as emotions play the role of rooting the new beliefs. New beliefs and emotions can simply be the opposite of the old (negative) beliefs and emotions. Where you thought you were ugly and miserable, you teach yourself that you’re beautiful and have joy, etc.

Because your new way of thinking will need a source, those new and improved positive beliefs, and their emotions will become that source. Thus, renewing your way of thinking (about yourself, and inevitably about others), and creating new neuron pathways (new thinking and feeling pathways).

Being ever enduring in patience and persistent practice of detaching from the old and attaching to the new.

Being in the midst of your healing, you will consciously imagine your perfect (most adored) self and remember (embody) that image as motivation and a practice to renew yourself because it will take effort, consistency, and patience.

Do also take a pen and paper and write answers to the questions, who am I, what makes me happy, what do I love, what do I want to do, etc. 

Moving on is the stage of your self-discovery journey which entails implanting a new sense of self within you. This self will be without pain. This self will be healed and free to be whomever they wish to be, therefore creating the dream self.

If you don’t create your dream self, do you suppose that someone else qualifies to create a dream self for you, like society or the world? Certainly not.

As you were stripped of your identity, probably from a young age, now that you are grown you deserve to be who reestablishes the self (yourself, who is a spirit).  

You will now have a look at the answers you’ll have written down. You will now have scraped the bad from the good within yourself and begin to practice the good without the bad. The hard work doesn’t stop here it continues even more vigorously.

The only things you will practice here are the actions that align with who you said you want to be, and who you already are though you just have to actively practice being that person because they were stolen from you by pain and trauma.

Rewrite what that person does from morning till night, what they eat, and wear, and certainly how they feel and how they think. You will practice (do) only what is written on that paper until you do it well and effortlessly until these things are engraved by the wonderful force of habit. And then Walla!

You have established a new sense of self, the self of your dreams. Living as your true adored self. You will enter the final stage of the self-discovery journey, and that is the auto-pilot stage of your discovery journey where you will blissfully find new passions and likes and dislikes and loves unapologetically throughout the rest of your life.

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